Teaching Homekeeping
Are your children tired of the same old chores in your house? It can be tough enough to motivate a child to do chores, but if they are stuck with the same jobs day in and day out - you can bet you have a battle on your hands.
Yes, children should help out around the house. It teaches them household skills and gives them pride. As a parent, you can help your child stretch their learning and be more motivated by varying their responsibilities from time to time.
You can implement a "chore jar". Write the names of different jobs and responsibilities on them. The next time you hear your child complain,(or maybe you just want to help them refresh their duties a little), have them draw a slip of paper out of the chore jar. Whatever task is listed on that paper, that is the chore they need to accomplish.
A lot of chores tend to be gender-oriented. Boys usually end up mowingyards and girls learn kitchen duties. Maybe once a month, or even once a week, you can implement a "switcharoo day". On this day girls do "men stuff" such as mowing the yard, changing oil on the car, hammering, touching up paint, etc. while boys do "women's stuff. The boys can help cook, tend to flowers, write thank-you notes, fold laundry, sew, etc.
All of these skills are very valuable to ALL people. I bet you will find your child's interests expanding and a more congenial personality develop when they are allowed to explore and learn ALL aspects of home keeping.
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Six Ideas to Help You Discipline Your Kid
Got a kid? Love him or her? Of course you do. So when he or she misbehaves on a consistent basis, what's the best way to administer discipline?
Well, as you may be aware, there is a wide range of thought on this subject. One school of thought teaches essentially hand's off, and says, the little darlings are very intelligent, so let them figure it all out on their own. No punishment or reward systems. Still another extreme says that the Singapore model of "caning" people for littering is a good one.
Most of us find ourselves in between these two nutty positions...and the word "nutty" is being charitable. If you don't think so, then stop reading. You're a lost cause and should find yourself a nice rubber room somewhere so that you don't hurt yourself or anyone else.
The fact is that anyone who actually watches children behave - without preset mental filters - will almost certainly come to the conclusion that different children respond differently. Some kids have a very high "pain" threshold. They can take whatever penalties you exact as they stubbornly refuse to do what they should do. There are others who can be easily motivated by various token systems.
So how do you find out what method of discipline will work for your kid(s)?
In a word: experiment! Here are six ideas for proceeding.
#1 - Put on your "scientist hat." Research what's out there. No author knows your kid better than you do. But many researchers have seen thousands of kids and had opportunities to try various strategies with kids and their families. So knowing what's been done before is a very good strategy in and of itself.
#2 - Once you have a sense of what is possible, start interacting with your own kid(s). Bear in mind that we live in societies that are increasingly filled with busybodies who do everything they can to blur the lines between discipline and abuse. So be careful as you try different discipline ideas.
Important note: as you try these ideas, it is critically important that you (a) remember your main goal: raising good, intelligent children. If this isn't your main goal, please find that aforementioned rubber room for yourself. And (b) be patient. This is as much an experiment for them as it is for you. They've never been where they are right now. It's their first time being a kid at the age they are. And remember, you're not dealing with lab rats here. You're dealing with *your* children. Never lose sight of that.
#3 - When you find something that seems to work, don't think you can finally relax. Nothing of the sort, my friend. Don't confuse short term hits to the bull's-eye with long term success. Your child may be responding to novelty as much as to the discipline. When the novelty wears off - and it will - your child may very well revert to the old behaviors that you tried to change. Novelty has a tough time lasting more than a few weeks. So give things at least 3-6 weeks to see if the changes are enduring.
#4 - Tweak before you make major changes in your efforts. For example, suppose you are rewarding your kid(s) with pizza at the end of the week if certain things are done right. And suppose you have reason to believe they are responding to novelty rather than the measures themselves. Rather than junking the measures, tweak them a bit to determine if your suspicion is valid. For example, you might vary the food rewards and say, "Look - if you do the right things, you get to pick what we have for Friday dinner." You might be on the right track and tweaking gives you a chance to really find out.
#5 - If tweaking doesn't work, then by all means try new approaches, keeping in mind all of the above.
#6 - Finally, be humble enough to know that you might need professional family help in the form of therapists and other counselor types. You've got to be careful here because these professionals vary widely in terms of competence and also in terms of appropriateness for your family. For example, some therapists suggest Ritalin as the first line of therapeutic intervention if the child is having trouble in school. You have a right to be skeptical in such situations. Listen to your own inner voice here. No matter how well intentioned, many therapists simply get things wrong. If the one you've initially selected isn't right for your child or your family, try another.
Note: there are professional organizations that can help you find a decent therapist if there is a need. America and many other nations are rich in resources to help families. Look to them if your problems grow too intense for you to handle on your own.
Finally, use common sense. Sounds strange perhaps, but the fact is that no matter what professional help you may seek out, no matter what books you read, and no matter what online forums you participate in - YOU will be making the decisions. You are responsible, like it or not. Use the best intelligence you can and proceed with caution.
About the author, Darrell is a regular writer for http://www.home-n-family.com - for more home and family related information please visit our website.
Your Child Is Talented
The birth of a child is virtually the greatest joy for every family. Since that moment their life would take a different flow. It would never be the same. I would not say that it would be happier or simpler. But one thing is certain it would attain more meaning and require more responsibility. For every parent their child is the best. No one would persuade me that there is a girl better than my daughter. But I am trying my best to be objective with her. It is natural for parents to ascribe to their baby various remarkable abilities.
However, pragmatic scientists have proved that only 20 % newborn brain cells are functioning, so baby’s talent is as helpless as he is himself. But it is in no case hopeless: by learning every new action new brain cells are involved and talent takes definite shape. The basis of the future talent should be formed before the child is three. At this age the brain cells are most capable of developing new connections (by the age the child is 3, 90 % of the brain structure has been already formed). Once special tests help you detect that your child is talented, start your work on developing their capabilities to the utmost.
The main task of the early education is to develop fundamental psychological functions- memory, attention, imagination, logical thinking. The period when the child is under three is very important: alongside the intellectual skills, most of the personal traits (such as self – discipline, sincerity, diligence, etc) are developed at that time. Many modern psychological tests for one-year-old include social aspects. Besides the well known IQ they reflect the child’s emotional quotient – EQ. Without it even the high IQ is not a guarantee of future success. The only chance to improve EQ - teach the child to communicate with other people.
Psychologists state that talent formation stops at 13 years old. By that time parents and teachers should do a titanic work. Without pushing and imposing their own opinions on to the children they should motivate their constant and free development. It is difficult, almost impossible. But the reward is worth trying: an unbound talent is getting brighter and brighter from year to year, children are learning, imitating, adopting to society rules, looking for understanding and finally find their niche where they can realize themselves best of all. After that they start develop independently. You as a parent become an attentive observer of their accomplishments and failures guiding them through the life.
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